PARENTS OF TEENS How would you feel if your kid wrote you a note?

I'm 17 and I feel like my parents aren't listening to me. Most of the time they just act like what I say is not important or take my words and twist them so that what I said attacks my parents when that is not what I said at all. What I have to say is really important to me so I was wondering if your child wrote you a note and wrote at the top "what I wrote is exactly what I mean" and then gave it to you would you get mad? Would you carefully read it?PARENTS OF TEENS How would you feel if your kid wrote you a note?
I'd carefully read it...sometimes we get so wrapped up in things that a conversation gets corrupted. A note requires the reader to be quiet and really "listen". There is no guarantee, but its a good approach to try.PARENTS OF TEENS How would you feel if your kid wrote you a note?
I would be happy to read it and discuss it with my child.

Go for it.PARENTS OF TEENS How would you feel if your kid wrote you a note?
it would depend on what you said, whether id get mad or not. i would read it
You should write things down so you can figure them out, but you should be the one saying the words. Handing them a note is a cowardly way out. But after speaking to them, you should offer them the text and give them time to reflect and answer back, because teens think they know it all but are frequently wrong because they only see the little picture that involves themselves and not the larger picture which involves others.



Yes, I parented a teen. I did it solo, too. I know there are things she did that I didn't find out about, but not much. It's really hard to hide things from a parent who cares about you. It isn't a control issue; please believe me on that. You should keep a dialog open, even if what you want to do is to close it. I understand that because I faced it from the other side. From both actually, because I was a teenager once myself. This is a fact children often overlook. I know this is tough at your age, but try to cultivate patience. My daughter and I were emotionally distant for a few years when she was around your age, but she went to school and made a life of her own. Then we came back together again, although she's in another state and married. We never stopped caring about each other; we just couldn't connect for a time. She was only halfway through college when we reconnected.



When she was your age, I'm sure she felt the same about me as you do about your parents. I just want to reassure you that if you handle it right and don't burn the bridges behind you, it'll pass.