I work with mostly women so naturally there's a lot of gossiping etc Anyway, there's one woman that can't keep anything to herself and you could be chatting to her and without realizing what you've just said she'll twist your words then spread gossip. I mean, I can't just not speak to them but at the same time I don't want to get involved in the petty drama that goes on.
How can I avoid contributing to the conversation when they're gossiping without coming across as rude or quiet?How do you avoid gossiping at work?
Get your nondescript responses down:
Oh?
Really?
truly?
Wow
Amazing
Then change the subject back to work with periodic interrupters
by the way
that reminds me
have you...
It is tough.
Just stay away for her. Don't pay any mind to this lady and act as though she isn't there.How do you avoid gossiping at work?
Talk when you ask and great without saying more. Simple as that.
You can make it a light convo...and think about what your about to say before you say it..and you may think its hard but its not...if you had the lottery numbers would you just go tell people..i sure hope not..if so when.you get them tell me lolHow do you avoid gossiping at work?
I'm in just the same situation! But everyone knows that this lady is a gossip, so I'm hoping what she says is taken with a pinch of salt. If the girls in my office are saying unkind things about someone else I just put my head down and get on with work - I really don't want to get involved!
Don't talk to her about anything apart from the weather or what was on television last night - or when asked for your opinion on something controversial simply reply - I really couldn't say - and engross yourself in your work.
Be careful
They may also talk about u behind ure back
just smile and look down
and try your best to change the subject
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Keep conversation basic, don't tell her anything that is remotely confidential and try to avoid talking to her on your own so that you have a witness to any conversations that you have with her. People like her can be quite dangerous with regard to spreading rumours. You can always make yourself look busy if you want to avoid gossip.
just Keep on Smiling , Don't open your mouth and say a word. And if they call you asking non-related stuffs , don't give perfect answers. just say ohh , yaa, uhh , hmmm and they won't ask you after few days. :)
It's difficult, when I hear the words 'Did you hear about..." I make an excuse to leave, the trouble with gossips is that if you allow them to tell you their gossip, they take that as permission to spin anything you tell them into a gossip worthy nugget. Just keep conversation with gossips to the minimum, they'll learn you're not interested.
You could always spread the news that you heard management discussing the new, pin-hole surveillance cams and whenever someone tries to chat you up just place your finger to your lips, raise one brow, and gesture toward the corner of the room (any corner will do..if it has a light fixture or some type of vent or speaker..all the better).
You could distribute a memo (created by YOU, but no one else needs to know that) saying from here on out, there will be zero tolerance for any gossip or non-work related chatter.. and that may work.
If those are too extreme, you'll just have to turn into Switzerland. Remain balanced, fair, non-committal, and as neutral as possible at every turn.
"..tch heeeeeh..did you see that..? Why she looks just like a pig on stilts with that micro-mini and those heels..and she was 20 mins late again today"...
'..oh Petunia.. you are such fun! What would we do without you'..!
Always making a lighthearted comment..complimenting the office pot-stirrer, Petunia, and not remarking either way re: what the content was should do the trick.
Some companies really do have a zero tolerance for office gossip, so spreading that around might be good. If you got desperate, you could always go to management and tattle..but it would likely be revealed you were the snitch, so best not.
Good Luck.
don't say anything personal? talk about mainstream stuff - latest shoes, clothing, showbiz etc. Good luck!
Try to smile and nod politely when she starts taking about someone in the office only respond when she is talking about something general like the weather or last night's tv. This is the reason most of the time I avoid hangout with the ladies in the office (although not all ladies gossip, many do) and I just keep to myself to avoid all the drama.
keep it light and look out for obvious signs of her fishing for info. Either go out for a smoke (if you do that) or make for the coffee/loo when things get really close but that woman will doubt wind somebody else up eventually and you'll have a ringside seat for the fireworks so grab a coffee and biscuit and enjoy people like that always come unstuck or just ignore her per se not rude more self preservation.
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